I previously posted a blog featuring ten tips to reduce stress — stress being one of the three components of the Weight Loss formula I advocate. (If you missed it, click here to read Ten Tips to Manage Stress.)
One of the tips I offered to reduce stress was to examine how you spend your time and incorporate more balance into your life.
Life balance is one of my favorite topics!
I love this topic because I used to be really, really bad at juggling. Mastering the juggle was key to my current level of happiness and fulfillment.
In fact, I love the topic of mastering the juggle and life balance so much I decided to hold a multi-day retreat to help women master this important topic. It’s called a Life Box Retreat, and it will dive deep into everything I discovered about the process of mastering life balance in my personal journey.
For more information on the Life Box Retreat, please click here! The guest list will be limited to 5 women only, and I hope you will consider joining the women who have already made the investment in themselves to be there.
So, balancing the competing areas of your life definitely requires some strong juggling skills, and I can honestly say that most people I know have definitely NOT mastered the art of the juggle.
Do you find that when you’re thriving in one area of your life, the other areas seem to suffer a little…or a lot? Do you get stressed out because of all the competing demands and find yourself unable to keep up? Do you find yourself constantly breaking commitments to yourself, especially in the area of health and wellness? If you answered YES to any of those questions, you probably need at least a little work on life balance.
Life balance is a necessary component of happiness and fulfillment in life.
So why is it so hard to achieve?
Our lives are filled with so much wonderful subject matter. Love and Marriage. Children. Friends. Relationship with Self. Health and Fitness. Travel. Hobbies. Personal Development. Spiritually and/or Religion. Service to Others.
But it’s easy to lose sight of how wonderful each of the areas of your life can be when you’re experiencing stress over how to pay enough attention to all areas.
I used to consider some areas of my life necessary, but not necessarily wonderful. Work. Home. Finances. To name a few. My commitment to those areas was more of an obligation and necessity of adult life.
My perspective — in other words, my mindset — made it impossible for me to enjoy any of the time spent in those areas.
But I invested some serious time and effort on mastering mindset.
And for that reason my current perspective is that each of my life boxes is wonderful, and that attitude alone adds to the fullness of my life and naturally helps me manage my stress. None of it’s a burden and none of it bogs me down. And when I lose sight of that perspectives, I am quickly able to remind myself that the “less” fun stuff is merely part of the journey, and without the “less” fun stuff, the fun stuff would not be near as joyous!
There’s so much beauty in that balance, but achieving the balance can be tricky.
The solution I found to creating a healthy balance in life involves the four-step process outlined below. I have tweaked the process somewhat over time, but the overall framework is the same.
Step 1: Identify and Assess Your Life Boxes. Make a list of your life boxes — these are all the areas of your life, including anything you would like to incorporate going forward. Once you have your list, evaluate your life boxes using the following questions: How much time do you spend in each box? Are there boxes you would like to close forever and put out with the recycling? What is your level of satisfaction in each life box? How do you prioritize each life box? And does the amount of time you spend in each box correlate to the level of priority you assigned to the life box?
Step 2: Set Goals for Each Life Box. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your spouse or partner? Your kids? How much time do you want to spend with your friends? How much time do you want to spend on travel, if any? What are your goals for your professional life? How much wealth do you wish to build? How do you want to organize and manage your home? What level of health and fitness are important to you, and how do you get there or maintain? How can you combine different areas to maximize efficiency in your balance? Can you exercise with a friend or your spouse? Would your family share a vacation with friends? If you’re married, some of these will be joint goals. The point is to spend some time setting a direction for each area so you know where you are headed.
Step 3: Plan Accordingly. Part of life balance is planning. If you are proactively looking at each area of your life as you plan your week ahead, you can be sure to incorporate actions that will not only bring you into balance but also ensure you are headed towards the achievement of your stated goals at all times. Of course, there will be periods that lack balance for one reason or another, but the key is to always be paying attention to where your time is spent so that you never go too far out of balance and never stray too far from the attainment of your goals in every area of life.
Step 4: Prioritize. Clock time is limited, so it helps to establish priority items for a defined period of time. You can use any time as a frame of reference, meaning for this week, or this month or this quarter, my top priority will be “x” or “x,y, and z”. Most of my clients are weight loss clients, and we discuss pretty early into our coaching relationship that they must make their health and weight loss goals the top priority if they are to achieve their desired results. With weight loss, falling into the health and fitness area, as the number one priority until desired results are achieved, a time slot for exercise, food and drink intake and stress management is always reserved and takes priority over everything else.
If you haven’t been successful devising your own plan for life balance, or don’t even know where to start because you feel so overwhelmed, I highly recommend you try the four-step process above. Or better yet, attend my Life Box Retreat in October, where we will delve deeply into the key issues that impact life balance with the goal of life transformation.
Whatever you decide, I can assure you that any attempt to bring your life into balance will be worth the effort and investment.
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